Hello Sam, I was guided here by my friend, Christine, who has seen a project I made and thought you'd like it. Having read this piece and a couple of others, I can see why! 'Normal' is what she said you were and how you spoke on your podcast and wrote was also normal. It is normal to feel, but talk about having feelings of insecurity, fear, sadness with our mates, not so much. It's lovely to hear a n other man talk openly about love and failings. Cheers!
I don't want to just stick a link on your page on first meeting but I would like to share the things I've created with you and something that is pertinent to this page in particular. Do you answer direct messages on Twitter or is there a contact email I could send a link to?
Your blog and what I've seen so far has made me feel a little bit prouder of being the man I am and has also pushed me to being more focussed on my recovery.
I look forward to sneaking peaks into your journey on this planet.
Another top notch article Sam - being abusive to your mates was always was a form affection in the olden days - one thing about my children’s generation is that they are more ‘woke’ - social and emotional aspects of learning is integrated into pretty much all schools now - I was on the committee for schools around Rochdale implementing measures back in the early 00s - the only thing that worries me is that a lot of teens now are well aware of but find it hard to express emotional language face to face as so much of their social interactions come from technology- there needs to be a balance somewhere between our generational comradely and the new age wokeness
Mate, stunning again. Why do we make being honest so hard? Once you get there it is so utterly liberating you wonder why you waited so long to be honest with others and especially (and most importantly) yourself. That quote by Anthony Hopkins had me welling up. Fantastic, thank you
Hi Sam, brilliant stuff once again. Thanks for these weekly emails. As a 51 year old man I can totally relate to this. It’s a generational thing. Keep up the fantastic work mate.
My pleasure mate, glad you can relate. Also glad that younger people, like my kids I hope, find this stuff easier to talk about then the likes of us do!
I remember a good friend 25 years ago who couldn't be doing with the normal emotionless male world and so he just hugged and kissed his friends and told them us loved them. It was a fantastic thing that has helped me ever overcome the nonsense ever since. Say it and do it to your mates, it's liberating. By the way Sam, I love you x
Mental how much each of these resonates with me despite being 20 years younger than you. I think me and my mates are pretty good at talking about stuff now, and I’d say my generation have got a lot better with it recently. It usually resonates when we’re sat hungover in someone’s living room and someone will go “my hangxiety is through the roof” or something. Definitely isn’t easy as a lad, but gets so much easier when you know a couple of others in your group actually have similar issues. Nice one Sam
I think we’re pretty good at taking the piss out of each other and ourselves about it, goes a long way to making talking about stuff going on in the nut feel more normal.
An absolutely brilliant article again beeping Timmy! I remember having depression and the lads in the pub would say “you still ill you soft cunt?” as a way to let me talk about it!
Absolutely brilliant as always Sam. I wish someone had said to me “what’s up ya miserable cunt?” Rather than walking on egg shells and pretending everything was fine.
Hello Sam, I was guided here by my friend, Christine, who has seen a project I made and thought you'd like it. Having read this piece and a couple of others, I can see why! 'Normal' is what she said you were and how you spoke on your podcast and wrote was also normal. It is normal to feel, but talk about having feelings of insecurity, fear, sadness with our mates, not so much. It's lovely to hear a n other man talk openly about love and failings. Cheers!
I don't want to just stick a link on your page on first meeting but I would like to share the things I've created with you and something that is pertinent to this page in particular. Do you answer direct messages on Twitter or is there a contact email I could send a link to?
Your blog and what I've seen so far has made me feel a little bit prouder of being the man I am and has also pushed me to being more focussed on my recovery.
I look forward to sneaking peaks into your journey on this planet.
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Carl
Another top notch article Sam - being abusive to your mates was always was a form affection in the olden days - one thing about my children’s generation is that they are more ‘woke’ - social and emotional aspects of learning is integrated into pretty much all schools now - I was on the committee for schools around Rochdale implementing measures back in the early 00s - the only thing that worries me is that a lot of teens now are well aware of but find it hard to express emotional language face to face as so much of their social interactions come from technology- there needs to be a balance somewhere between our generational comradely and the new age wokeness
Mate, stunning again. Why do we make being honest so hard? Once you get there it is so utterly liberating you wonder why you waited so long to be honest with others and especially (and most importantly) yourself. That quote by Anthony Hopkins had me welling up. Fantastic, thank you
Nick
Thanks Sam. I can relate. Massively.
My 1st sobriety birthday was Anthony Hopkins’ 45th. How much more inspirational can you get?!
Have a great weekend.
Rob.
Congratulations mate! Massive achievement. Stick at it, keeps getting better.
Hi Sam, brilliant stuff once again. Thanks for these weekly emails. As a 51 year old man I can totally relate to this. It’s a generational thing. Keep up the fantastic work mate.
My pleasure mate, glad you can relate. Also glad that younger people, like my kids I hope, find this stuff easier to talk about then the likes of us do!
I remember a good friend 25 years ago who couldn't be doing with the normal emotionless male world and so he just hugged and kissed his friends and told them us loved them. It was a fantastic thing that has helped me ever overcome the nonsense ever since. Say it and do it to your mates, it's liberating. By the way Sam, I love you x
LOL. Yeah dishing out hugs to the lads is a class touch.
Or just do a straight up Clough and Venables move 🤝
Mental how much each of these resonates with me despite being 20 years younger than you. I think me and my mates are pretty good at talking about stuff now, and I’d say my generation have got a lot better with it recently. It usually resonates when we’re sat hungover in someone’s living room and someone will go “my hangxiety is through the roof” or something. Definitely isn’t easy as a lad, but gets so much easier when you know a couple of others in your group actually have similar issues. Nice one Sam
Cheers Dex. I'm glad it is easier for you younger lads. Hopefully soon chatting about this stuff will be as normal about chatting about hangovers.
I think we’re pretty good at taking the piss out of each other and ourselves about it, goes a long way to making talking about stuff going on in the nut feel more normal.
An absolutely brilliant article again beeping Timmy! I remember having depression and the lads in the pub would say “you still ill you soft cunt?” as a way to let me talk about it!
That is great - exactly what I'm talking about. Well played your mates. Cheers Philip.
Absolutely brilliant as always Sam. I wish someone had said to me “what’s up ya miserable cunt?” Rather than walking on egg shells and pretending everything was fine.
yep, a certain brituality mixed with compassion can go a long way. Thanks Dan.